What about you…..

1. I’m Slowly Learning That I Don’t Have To React To Everything That Bothers Me

2. I’m slowly learning that I don’t have to hurt those who hurt me.

3. I’m slowly learning that maybe the ultimate sign of maturity is walking away instead of getting even

4. I’m slowly learning that the energy it takes to react to every bad thing that happens to you drains you and stops you from seeing the other good things in life.

5. I’m slowly learning that I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and I won’t be able to get everyone to treat me the way I want to be treated and that’s okay.

6. I’m slowly learning that trying so hard to ‘win’ anyone is just a waste of time and energy and it fills you with nothing but emptiness.

7. I’m slowly learning that not reacting doesn’t mean I’m okay with things, it just means I’m choosing to rise above it. I’m choosing to take the lesson it has served and learn from it

8. I’m choosing to be the bigger person. I’m choosing my peace of mind because that’s what I truly need. I don’t need more drama. I don’t need people making me feel like I’m not good enough. I don’t need fights and arguments and fake connections.

9. I’m slowly learning that sometimes not saying anything at all says everything.

10. I’m slowly learning that reacting to things that upset you gives someone else power over your emotions
You can’t control what others do but you can control how you respond, how you handle it, how you perceive it and how much of it you want to take personally.

11. I’m slowly learning that most of the time, these situations say nothing about you and a lot about the other person.

12. I’m slowly learning that maybe all these disappointments are just there to teach us how to love ourselves because that will be the armor and the shield we need against the people who try to bring us down. They will save us when people try to shake our confidence or when they try to make us feel like we’re worthless.

13. I’m slowly learning that even if I react, it won’t change anything, it won’t make people suddenly love and respect me, it won’t magically change their minds

14. I’m slowly learning that Sometimes it’s better to just let things be, let people go, don’t fight for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers and don’t expect people to understand where you’re coming from.

15. I’m slowly learning that life is better lived when you don’t centre it on what’s happening around you and centre it on what’s happening inside you instead.

16. I’m slowly learning that if you channel your energy, time and resources on God it will do you good

17. I’m learning fast that if God does not help you, nobody on earth will help you and that in all, He’d still be God regardless of your predicament.

18. I’ve finally discovered that thanksgiving, praises and gratitude to God is key if you must succeed in life

_Work on yourself and your inner peace and you’ll come to realise that not reacting to every little thing that bothers you is the first ingredient to living a happy and healthy life._
Culled from: Ogey Clay Ekpong

A tombstone at Westminster Abby has the following written by an Anglican Priest from the 1500s.

It says;

” When I was young and free and my Imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world.

As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world will not change…so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country, but it too seemed immovable.

As I grow into my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it.

And now I realize as I lie on my deathbed, if I had only change myself first, then by example I might have changed my family. From their inspiration and encouragement, I would have been able to better my country.
And who knows, I might have even changed the world”

If you want to change the world, you start by changing yourself.

You change yourself by asking.

If you don’t like something, ask.(ask, seek and knock) how to change it.

Ask God, ask others, ask yourself.

With each question you will receive an illumination, an idea or the help, assistance that allows you to change in small ways.

“Every positive movement, every breakthrough, every extraordinary idea, every fortune made, always begins with Asking.”..

Mark Victor Hansen (in his new book, Ask!). It is only by learning How to Ask and What to Ask that you can create your most extraordinary life, manifest your greatest blessings, and cross the bridge from your dreams to your ultimate destiny.

Make that change!

Micah Ndackson, Lifesuccess Coach

Like man,
Like state!

– Plato (The Republic)

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Which is which; Social distancing or Physical distancing ?

I had a serious and beautiful intellectual engagement with colleague Sociologists, all day. Want to share the fallout:

•Social distancing is NOT the same as Physical distancing and their usage must not be synonymous.

•Physical distancing,is a set of non-pharmaceutical interventions or measures taken to prevent the spread of a contagious disease by maintaining a physical distance between people and reducing the number of times people come into close contact with each other.It typically involves keeping a certain distance from others (Wikipedia)

•Social distance on the other hand refers to the level of acceptance people have of others outside of their own social group or class. This level of acceptance is defined by their general feelings toward others, and the amount of social interaction they have with people whose characteristics are outside of their social norm. Social distance is a measure of perceived difference (or distance) among groups. As a social construct, social distance is a familiar issue. Many common phrases refer to social distance, such as ‘out of your league’ and ‘birds of a feather flock together.

Some social characteristics that lead to social distance include race, ethnicity, age, gender, and economic class.

Some people for example, still exhibit extreme levels of racial social distance by not wanting to live or work with members of other ethnicities.This emerges from feelings and manifests in attitude which is a demonstration of Social distancing.

• Clearly then,the strategy to reduce the spread of the COVID-19 pandemic is
“ PHYSICAL DISTANCING “ and NOT “social distancing”

• A very welcome development is that, the World Health Organization (WHO) has started using the phrase “physical distancing” instead of “social distancing” as a way to prevent the spread of the novel coronavirus from people to people, a move widely welcomed by experts as a step in the “right direction”.

• Let’s observe Physical distancing to stop the spread of the corona virus.

• Stay safe, love life!

#copied

To attain happiness in another world we need only to believe something, while to secure it in this world we must do something.
– Charlotte Perkins Gilman (1860-1935)